I am totally with you, sister! And I hug your coming-out self. ::hugs:: I'm one of those people who always realized I was bi, which can be attributed to the remarkable openmindedness of my family. I remember being ten or eleven and watching David Bowie on tv (whom I loved and still do) and my mother saying casually that he was bisexual, that many artists and freethinkers were. And I thought, "Well, that makes sense. I mean, why would you stick just to one gender if you didn't have to? That's just silly. That must be what I am, too." I wasn't really publically out until my mid-twenties, but more because it didn't really occur to me that I should be until then and because I was distracted with dating men so the issue was sort of pushed to one side. When I realized that visibility is a political issue, I started officially "coming out" to people but all my family were like, "uh, duh, old news." But I agree that it's much harder for male people to be bi than female people. My husband is bi and he's had a much rougher time coming to terms with it and has caught a lot more shit for it, too. And his family is much less open and understanding, which is harder. I think his family thinks it was just a phase and that I cured him. It's kind of funny - he came out to them as gay (he was a bit confused) and then he didn't date another man. Not too long after he met me and we ended up moving in together pretty quickly. So all that drama was for naught. And they still don't get it, of course, but it's just not worth the trouble of trying to explain it. And I haven't come out to them, I admit. I'm not exactly closeted with them - if it came up in conversation or they asked me a direct question I would be honest - but I certainly haven't gone out of my way to tell them as I tend to do with everyone else. Our relationship with them is difficult enough without throwing in largely theoretical and political problems into the mix. My relationship with Mr. Diva is monogamous, so it's not like I'm hiding a girlfriend or anything.

And I have to say, RayK reads as very bi to me. He sets my bidar a pinging (as does Callum himself but that's another issue). It's not just his clothes (the bracelet), but the way he carries himself, his reactions to people. Fraser is more of a stretch, honestly, but he's also very repressed so I can see there being all kinds of stuff going on in that gorgeous head that aren't visible. And it doesn't hurt that the actors were obviously playing with the boundaries of the relationship. I think Due South has been called one of the gayest straight shows ever produced, and I must concur. I mean, buddy shows are always pretty gay but DS took it to new levels.

I'm looking forward to the day when some buddy cop show introduces a romance between the partners in canon. Maybe Russell Davies will take a crack at that after he's done with Dr. Who.