It's all a matter of perspective...
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ds_flashfictionI was bored at work waiting to print out about 50 pages and this popped into my head. Totally unbeta'd, so feel free to correct any and all mistakes, they will be gladly taken to heart.
(It's all a matter of perspective....)
I always found the phrase " the man is always in charge of the marriage" somewhat interesting, and waaay off base. I mean, yeah, Dad was the man of the house, the head of the household when I was a kid and he still is, but if you think about it, and trust me, I have over and over and over, it's really the kids who are in charge. No, really. Just look at it- every little thing revolves around kids- will we have them, when we'll have them( Oh, boy do I know about argument), how do we raise them, where will we go on vacation and so on. And the cycle never stops- it starts with your own parents when you're a kid and then repeats all over again when you have kids and then again when your kids have kids and then again when your kids kids have... well, you get the point.
So, I figured that when Stella and I got married, we'd continue the cycle and we kinda did, 'cept we only got to the "Let's try for kids.... Not now, Ray" part. After the divorce, I figured that I'd broken the Kowalski "Kids 'N Charge" cycle, at least where I was concerned. Little did I know back then that I'd get another shot at it- only not in the usual manner.
I mean, c'mon, two guys having that talk- not your first thought when someone brings it up. So, when Ben brought up the topic at dinner eight years ago, I damn near choked on my stew. Once I recovered, thanks to Ben repeatedly pounding my back, and stopped staring at him like he'd grown three extra heads (not there, jeez!), I really thought about it- again. Me, Ray Kowalski, a Dad- the diaper changes, the late nights,the vacation discussion, the worrying. Was I ready for it?? Could I really do this- I thought that I could when Stell and I were together, but things change and so did I over the years, I had different priorities and whole different life now. Then I looked over at Ben, saw the love and hope and fear of rejection in his face and I crumbled like a cracker. I told him that I loved him and that I'd love to bring a child into our lives, into our house, into our love and that I'd love raise either him or her with Ben.
So, that's how Alexandra Leigh Kowalski-Fraser and Steven Michael Kowalski-Fraser came into our lives, granted we had to wait almost a full year before they were born and we adopted them from their mom, but they're ours, Ben and mine. Our children. Who now run our lives with their schoolwork, their sports, their friends, their activities, and most importantly with their love. Funny, the ways that cycle can run- eh??
(It's all a matter of perspective....)
I always found the phrase " the man is always in charge of the marriage" somewhat interesting, and waaay off base. I mean, yeah, Dad was the man of the house, the head of the household when I was a kid and he still is, but if you think about it, and trust me, I have over and over and over, it's really the kids who are in charge. No, really. Just look at it- every little thing revolves around kids- will we have them, when we'll have them( Oh, boy do I know about argument), how do we raise them, where will we go on vacation and so on. And the cycle never stops- it starts with your own parents when you're a kid and then repeats all over again when you have kids and then again when your kids have kids and then again when your kids kids have... well, you get the point.
So, I figured that when Stella and I got married, we'd continue the cycle and we kinda did, 'cept we only got to the "Let's try for kids.... Not now, Ray" part. After the divorce, I figured that I'd broken the Kowalski "Kids 'N Charge" cycle, at least where I was concerned. Little did I know back then that I'd get another shot at it- only not in the usual manner.
I mean, c'mon, two guys having that talk- not your first thought when someone brings it up. So, when Ben brought up the topic at dinner eight years ago, I damn near choked on my stew. Once I recovered, thanks to Ben repeatedly pounding my back, and stopped staring at him like he'd grown three extra heads (not there, jeez!), I really thought about it- again. Me, Ray Kowalski, a Dad- the diaper changes, the late nights,the vacation discussion, the worrying. Was I ready for it?? Could I really do this- I thought that I could when Stell and I were together, but things change and so did I over the years, I had different priorities and whole different life now. Then I looked over at Ben, saw the love and hope and fear of rejection in his face and I crumbled like a cracker. I told him that I loved him and that I'd love to bring a child into our lives, into our house, into our love and that I'd love raise either him or her with Ben.
So, that's how Alexandra Leigh Kowalski-Fraser and Steven Michael Kowalski-Fraser came into our lives, granted we had to wait almost a full year before they were born and we adopted them from their mom, but they're ours, Ben and mine. Our children. Who now run our lives with their schoolwork, their sports, their friends, their activities, and most importantly with their love. Funny, the ways that cycle can run- eh??
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Date: 2004-02-03 04:56 am (UTC)As for mistakes - nah. I'd only suggest you leave an extra line between paragraphs next time to make it easier to read.
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Date: 2004-02-03 01:55 pm (UTC)Ahh, paragraphs.. dang it, I *knew* I;d forgotten something... thanks for the kind words and the advice :)
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Date: 2004-02-03 07:14 pm (UTC)Twin boys... you must have the patience of a saint or really good meds *S*
I agree RayK would make a great Dad- he'd teach them how to fix the Goat, how to really enjoy a ball game and that, contrary to Fraser, the best things in life really are junk food.
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Date: 2004-02-03 01:45 pm (UTC)(What Shay said about paragraphs -- the LJ interface is clever enough to spot double carriage returns in the input text and fix them up in the HTML. You can also go back and =edit= posts using the LJ interface. Oh, and I recommend Semagic (available for download) as it will help with a lot of the formatting and let you preview to check stuff like italization and all that.)
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Date: 2004-02-03 07:19 pm (UTC)Thanks for the advice, you people are so smart about this stuff!! :)
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Date: 2004-02-03 07:31 pm (UTC)It's something about who they( RayK and Fraser) are that makes it so believable, I think. CKR and PG played them as such real, in-depth people that we can actually see them in a relationship and see them with kids, and not as the card-board cut-outs that other characters are on tv. ( I hope that made sense..)